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When their illicit affairs are exposed, mistresses exhibit various reactions. Law Office Haeon will elucidate the types of responses mistresses display upon discovery of their infidelity and their attitude changes following lawsuits against them, based on actual South Korean adultery cases handled by our firm.

1. The Apologetic Type

This type acknowledges their wrongdoing and seeks forgiveness from the plaintiff. Initially, a significant number of mistresses adopt this attitude when their infidelity is first discovered. However, many may display this behavior as a temporary expedient to evade confrontation with the plaintiff, often attempting to re-establish contact with the plaintiff's spouse later.

2. The Audacious Type

These individuals, despite being exposed, brazenly emphasize the depth of their love with the plaintiff's husband. They may demand or even threaten the plaintiff to relinquish their spouse to them. (In extreme cases, they might proactively contact the plaintiff to disclose the affair or send photographs, demanding a divorce.)

Furthermore, they may exhibit defensive aggression upon receiving a breakup notice from the plaintiff's husband who wishes to return to his family. Notably, many mistresses have experienced turbulence in their own marital lives.

3. Examples of Audacious Behavior by Mistresses

① Verbally abusing the plaintiff via phone calls or sending hundreds of abusive text messages

② Setting profile pictures of themselves with the plaintiff's husband on platforms like KakaoTalk, visible to both the plaintiff and their spouse

③ Visiting the plaintiff's or their spouse's workplace or home, playing the victim while demanding reconciliation or financial compensation.

④ Threatening to visit the children's school or home, mentioning their names and personal details learned during the affair.

⑤ Recounting the plaintiff's shortcomings as described by their husband, claiming the husband sought them out due to the plaintiff's incompetence.

⑥ Boasting about how satisfying the illicit relationship was for the plaintiff's husband.

⑦ Preemptively disclosing the affair and demanding a divorce.

4. Advice from a Certified Korean Divorce Attorney

While this article presents only a few common scenarios, mistresses' behaviors can vary widely.

When faced with various forms of persuasion or threats from the mistress, remain calm and gather evidence of any violent situations through recorded phone calls or in-person conversations.

※ Note that in Korea, it is not illegal to secretly record a conversation you are part of without the other party's consent.

Sufficient evidence not only increases the likelihood of winning a subsequent lawsuit against the mistress but also enables criminal charges and additional civil lawsuits, depending on the severity of the behavior.

It's crucial to avoid becoming emotionally entangled in the mistress's psychology and responding emotionally as the plaintiff.

If you become emotionally involved:

① You may suffer severe psychological damage

② The mistress might use evidence of your emotional responses in court to reduce the compensation amount

③ You could face criminal charges for defamation or insult, as well as civil lawsuits for damages

④ Your anger might shift towards your husband, reopening wounds in the family you were trying to heal, ultimately achieving the mistress's desired outcome

5. Changes in Mistress's Attitude After Lawsuits

Once legal proceedings begin, most violent behavior disappears as if it never existed. (In rare cases where such behavior persists, legal measures like restraining orders, defamation suits, or insult charges can be firmly pursued.)

While mistresses might be perceived as experienced seductresses, statistically, most defendants in these cases are ordinary individuals.

Typically, defendants in mistress lawsuits:

① Experience extreme stress due to lack of prior litigation experience

② Naturally distance themselves from the plaintiff's husband as they attempt to prove their minimal culpability, often by shifting blame to him

③ May be ordered by the court to pay compensation ranging from ₩10,000,000 to ₩30,000,000 (approximately $7,700 to $23,100 USD) to the plaintiff, depending on the extent and duration of the affair, available evidence, and the handling attorney's approach

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